Today I’m going to share with you part of the journey that led to me deciding to own my own badass and then creating a program to help others do it…
Have you ever gotten to a point in your life that you literally got tired of being you..? Now, that may sound crazy, but I mean it. I literally reached a point where I was tired of looking in the mirror and seeing myself. I mean here I was with a master’s degree, a certified life coach, years in health and wellness, trained in ministry, and I was suffering. I felt BROKEN, I felt LOST, I felt like a FRAUD. I was doing everything I thought I was supposed to do. I was helping people, helping them to make positive changes in their own lives and have tremendous results. Yet, no matter how many strides I made, I kept finding myself lost in what seemed like a never ending tirade of relationship blowups, family drama, phony friends, etc, etc, etc… Can you say sick and tired of being sick and tired of being SICK AND TIRED!
So I decided to dive deep, to go for broke! I had already given away most of my physical possessions after a purge I’d been doing over a 4 year period of time. Both out of necessity and out of following the guidance I felt I was getting spiritually. I literally woke up one day in July 2008 and God said, “Give it all away”. I didn’t understand at first, but over time I realized that my whole life was built on everyone else, their opinions,their approval. Even down to the furniture I had bought and the clothes I wore. So I started a process of my own personal release, and starting giving everything away. In October 2012, I decided I needed to start completely over…somewhere I didn’t know anyone. Somewhere that held no hurtful memories or people I didn’t want to run into. Somewhere I could be quiet and work on me.
Everyone told me I was crazy. They asked my how I was going to survive. I’d finally gotten to a point that I didn’t care anymore. I applied for and got a job in a new state. In February 2013, I packed my suitcases, packed my car and left. I moved to town the day before I started the new position. And life as I new it changed! I started actually waking up in the morning, excited to go to work. Not so much because I loved going to work, but because I was finally finding me, I was finally experiencing a SOUL DEEP JOY. I got there by doing anything and everything I could think of and continuing to do the things that worked for me. Life didn’t stop bringing challenges, but it got a hell of a lot easier to deal with them!
Here are a few of the things I did:
~~I listen to meditations as I slept
~~I laughed as loud and as often as I could
~~I said positive affirmations to myself and aloud as often as I could
~~I purposefully spent time with people I enjoyed and didn’t give my time to people I didn’t want to be around
~~I took inventory every single day…of how I felt and if I felt negative or “off” I would purposefully do something that made me happy
~~I learned to say YES a lot more frequently to things I wanted to do, whether it was hiking or going to dinner with friends
~~I learned to say NO to things I didn’t want to do or that didn’t serve a purpose of good for me
~~I spent more of my time intentionally, instead of just aimlessly getting through each day
~~I re-prioritized and spent more time celebrating me, loving on me, just plain ol’ tooting my own horn
Life didn’t stop bringing challenges, but it got a hell of a lot easier to deal with them!
Skip forward to 2014, 2015, 2016 and now 2017… I have continued to do the work on me. And yes, life has definitely brought some challenges and uphill battles along the way, but I am still not only kicking, I am THRIVING. Because of the most powerful lesson that I took to heart… I can’t live this life for anyone else! It’s my life to live, in this skin, in this body. That means, I need to appreciate me, honor me, and live a life that I am proud of and enjoy to the fullest. I remind myself of that when I feel like I’m slipping backwards or tempted to let myself slip down the totem poll of my life.
Enter the BADASS..!
You’ve probably been hearing me talk about being a BADASS for the last 9 months or so. I’ve gone on an emotional/spiritual journey over the last 3 years, diving deeper into myself. Deeper than I had ever gone before, and more focused on growth and HEALING on new levels. And I’m still doing the work on me, daily I continue to open myself to learning and growing. Well, in January of this year I decided to be more vocal with it. I decided to share myself, my lessons, my triumphs and challenges, all live, via video on facebook and invite others to challenge themselves to rise higher. I was already pretty transparent as a person and as a coach… but I wanted to connect on a deeper level. I no longer wanted to work with clients simply because they wanted a coach or I wanted to grow my business. I wanted to work with people who were like me. Who wanted to go deeper than just building self-confidence or making a few positive changes. I wanted to connect with people who wanted to create a new way of living. Mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially.
I wanted to and continue to connect, with people who feel like soul-mates and kindred spirits. And the first step to being able to do that was to finally, fully own me, all of me. The good, bad, ugly, weird and eclectic parts of me. To find new ways to live life more authentically, and to create new ways to celebrate and enjoy as much of this living experience as I can. To look at my challenges as blessings and lessons, to appreciate the small things and to be amazing every single day, simply because I can be. Whether I’m lounging at home in my pj’s all day or attending an event, I incorporate different practices and habits that keep me conscious of owning my badass.
So,what is a badass you ask? There’s no one definition, however for me, being a BADASS is simply about accepting, honoring and celebrating yourself. That means, when you have a bad day, you don’t beat yourself up. Look at the circumstances and see where the lessons can be taken and applied.When you mess up, take the opportunity to grow. When you do something amazing, celebrate it! When you feel broken or weakened, acknowledge it and reach out for help. When the opportunities arise, pass on your knowledge and wisdom to help others. When the need arises, stand up for yourself, be bold enough to put your needs first when its needed. Speak your truth, even when your voice trembles and you’re the only one standing. And every chance you get, grow, learn, level up, and make this life amazing! You don’t have to wear a cape, change in a phone booth or leap off tall buildings to rock your Super Powers. All you’ve got to do, is let your greatness shine through and share it with the world. That’s your SUPER POWER… BEING YOU!
Being a BADASS is simply about accepting, honoring and celebrating yourself.
So, how do I continue to get my BADASS on and enjoy my life in a much more fulfilling way?
I FORGIVE! I mean, I forgive everything and everyone I can think of, lol! I’m not going to tell you it always feels easy, however it is so worth it to even start the process of FORGIVENESS. Somethings and people though I’d wanted to let go, I found myself struggling, feeling that they didn’t deserve my forgiveness. Owning my BADASS allows me to remember, it’s not about them, it’s about ME! It’s about my joy and happiness and being at PEACE.
I LOVE! Literally, I mean I choose to give and receive more love. Not only in my personal relationship, but also in my friendships, with random strangers I connect with. I share laughter, hugs, compliments, kind words, a listening ear, a safe shoulder, and any other ways I feel inspired to create love.
I CONNECT! I spend more time in meaningful connection, conversations, experiences and creating memories. I don’t feel obligated anymore to do everything and be everything for everyone. When I find myself overextending or participating in something that doesn’t serve my highest good, I much more quickly acknowledge it and remove myself.
I live INTENTIONALLY! I get up each day, asking myself what can I give and what can I receive in this beautiful present.
These are just a few of the ways I allow my BADASS to come through and help me create a more beautiful and enjoyable life experience. And I am sharing it with everyone who can hear my voice and feel my spirit! Even men ask me, if I can work them on getting in touch with their badass. And I say, YES!!!! I can help anyone who is willing to let go of the old and embrace the new, to own their badass and create a life they not only enjoy, but are proud of and feel blessed to live.
And guess what… I’m so freaking excited because I am now opening beta-testing for my new “OWN Your BADASS” signature coaching program!!
I don’t want this to be just another coaching program, I want it to be a game-changer and a life-changer! I want your help and your feedback, to make sure it’s everything it needs to be. I’m giving you a chance to kick the tires and take it for a spin before you marry me as coach and buy the whole program. Pretty cool, right? I know, lol!!!
To find out more or to register as a beta-tester CLICK HERE